Love Marriage VS Arranged Marriage

Marriage is an institution based on faith and respect It is a bond between two persons who start their lives together. Each religion has different way of marriage. They all have their own rituals and the ways by which they perform marriages. But the meaning and purity remains the same for all. In India it’s meaning are different. It is not only a bond between two people but two families also. A bride is held responsible for taking care of the whole family of the groom. Mostly in India, arranged marriages are done. Boy and girl’s parents fix up the marriages without much considering their children’s opinions. The girl and boy are supposed to give the consent to their parent’s decision. The girl marriages to the boy of her parent choice. Even if she does not like, she can not say ‘NO’. Generally the dowry takes place in the arranged marriages.
Since modernization has taken place and more and more boys and girls are getting education so they are coming in interaction with each other. They are becoming close friends to each other also. The reason for this is that most of the colleges in India are now offering coeducation to girls and boys both. They are not seeing the gender while becoming friends. The means of friendship has changed. They prefer the understanding and mentality for becoming friendly. In the process they start loving each other too and plan to get married. They talk to their parents. Some families are modernised and do not give importance to the religion and caste so get agreed for love marriages. But there are many families in the Indian society who are very conservative and give importance to the cast and religion. For them these factors are above the humanity. They wear modern dresses, cut their hair in a new styles, talk in a stylish way but when it comes the matter of love marriages of their children then they become rude. They want the girl or boy of their choice only. They do not want to break the wall of caste and religion. This is not fair. Due to this many couples commit suicide. Many parents kill their child and his choice also. The latest case we can see is of Nitish Katara. He was in love with Bharti Yadav who was a sister of Vikash Yadav. She is from a very strong political family. Her brothers came to know about their affair. They were against this but the girl and boy did not care for this. At last Vikash and his cousin, Vishal murdered Nitish. Nitish’s mother is fighting for her son’s justice since last 6 years. Today only she got justice in the Supreme Court. The court held Vishal and Vikas Yadav responsible for the murder. There are so many cases in India we can see like this. Today also parents do not see their children’s happiness. They have a fear for society. The girl’s parents are ready to give as much dowry as the boy’s families ask for but do not want to listen to the girl. They do not want to marry their girl as per her choice. This is not at all acceptable.
Today’s society has to be changed. One should try to remove these stigmas from the society. We need to learn that it two human being who have to spend their life together not the society. So their consent for the marriage is more important than the society. The society does not come first for the help. The society is always there to criticize but rarely comes for the support.